Happiness. How do we “get” happy? Do we even know what it truly is? Is it that feeling you get after buying your dream car? Or is it that feeling you get after spending the afternoon with your loved ones? Or is it both? What if you moved abroad to find happiness? One thing we can all agree on is that our thoughts on happiness can shape whether we will have that inner happiness we seek and treasure.
Happiness isn’t money, it isn’t a new car, it even isn’t a great job or husband. Happiness is something that is within each of us. So anything external isn’t the true direct source of our happiness. External things may be the trigger but of a happiness that’s already there. It’s up to us to focus specific thoughts about our external circumstances as a way of tapping into true happiness and steering clear of the negativity all around us.
We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world. – Siddharta, founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.
The brain sure is a complex creature. Many scholars and best-selling authors have written about the connection between our mind’s thoughts and attaining true happiness. If we focus our thoughts on good things, we will feel good things. Conversely, if we engage the negative thoughts, we will create an environment for that negativity to grow.
The law of attraction has been around for many years and recently received a tidal wave of attention. If we put out positive thoughts, we will generate more positivity. You attract what you are thinking about says the law. Negative thoughts that put ourselves down such as “I can’t do that,” or “I’m not good enough,” will be your truth.
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. – Mahatma Gandhi
Going around thinking happy, positive thoughts isn’t going to lock you in for true happiness. You have to act on those thoughts. Let those thoughts guide your words and your actions for the day, the week, the year. The more we put it into practice, the more likely we will have the kind of life we want.
There’s nothing like deep breaths after laughing that hard. Nothing in the world like a sore stomach for the right reasons. – Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Humor is infectious. The sound of roaring laughter is far more contagious than any cough, sniffle, or sneeze. When laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy. Laughter also triggers healthy physical changes in the body. Humor and laughter strengthen your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress. Best of all, this priceless medicine is fun, free, and easy to use.
I think and think and think, I‘ve thought myself out of happiness one million times, but never once into it. – Jonathan Safran Foer
Negativity perpetuates itself, breeds dissatisfaction and clutters the mind. And when the mind is cluttered with negativity, happiness is much harder to come by. The one thing nobody can take away from you is the way you choose to respond to what others say and do. The problem isn’t the events that are negative. The problem is the way you react to those events. The last of your freedoms is to choose your attitude in any given circumstance. Complaining, blaming and criticizing aren’t going to change the situation. It is not always easy to find happiness in ourselves, but it is always impossible to find it elsewhere. Regardless of the situation you face, your attitude is your choice. Remember, you can’t have a positive life with a negative attitude. When negativity controls your thoughts, it limits your behavior, actions, and opportunities. If you realized how powerful your thoughts were, you would never think another negative thought again.
Some also say that happiness is a science. If it is true, here are the hacks and skills you need to flourish.
I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness. – Drew Barrymore
Inner beauty is such a misnomer, if you give it a second consideration. What is inner beauty even supposed to mean anyway? Is it a kind of beauty that’s on the inside? So is that something we can never see, and only imagine? Inner beauty isn’t just inner beauty. As you dwell on the idea for a while, you’ll realize that inner beauty is the only beauty there is. I’m not trying to say that outer appearances don’t matter. All I’m saying is that inner beauty plays a much bigger part even in first sight than you think
All who joy would win must share it — Happiness was born a twin. – George Gordon Byron, Don Juan
Sharing is caring. Those who are happy don’t keep it to themselves. Nor do they only wish to be the only one happy. A truly happy person wants others to be happy too. There is no scarcity of the happiness resource. When we intend to be happy, we become infectious.
Children are happy because they don’t have a file in their minds called ‘All the Things That Could Go Wrong.’ – Marianne Williamson
I always say children are the best people in the world. Once they get jaded and negative then they’re a bona fide adult. Children are always looking to have a good time, show love unconditionally, and find contentment in the simplest things. It always rubs me the wrong way when I see adults take advantage of the “power” they have over children instead of celebrate and admire a child’s ability to be free thinking, anxiety free, and driven by love.
It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living. – F. Scott Fitzgerald
When we are struggling through our day and we encounter a dear friend’s smile or even a complete stranger’s kindness, we find happiness. Why is that? It’s our connection as human beings and the energy we give to each other when we don’t even realize it. We are all connected to each other and thankfully happiness can be contagious.
When we’re kind to people we know it strengthens our connections with them and provides a source of support. Research shows that we may benefit from giving support more than those receiving it – and we’re also more likely get support in return when we need it. This may not be like-for-like support, or even from the same person, but being kind to others builds a wider support network which increases well-being all round.
Doing kind things for strangers helps build co-operation, trust and a sense of safety in our communities. It also helps us to see others more positively and empathize with them. These are the foundations of a thriving local community and a flourishing society – one which builds well-being all round.
It’s said that the older we get the more we realize what true happiness entails. I’m hoping with some research and self-observance it won’t take me that long to discover. Constantly working on maintaining an internal happiness that cannot be affected by external circumstances is our best bet to achieve happiness.
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