There are plenty of reasons you may want to say something nice to a girl. Maybe you did something dumb, and now you’re in the doghouse. You could be trying to win the affections of your crush. Or maybe you’re trying to get her to do something to help you.
Whatever the case, knowing what to say, plus when and how to say it can swing things in your favor in no time. We’re going to share valuable advice on putting your right foot forward, and not in your mouth. For more tips on influencing people, check out this highly praised course.
The Little Things
Any old joker can compliment a girl’s eyes, her smile, or the clothes she’s wearing. It doesn’t take much thought or creativity to tell her she’s pretty. The secret is paying attention to the little things about her that no one else notices.
Maybe it’s an accessory that she absolutely loves: “That’s a really nice necklace, where did you get it?”. It could be a physical feature that she’s proud of – or insecure about: “It’s so cute the way your nose wrinkles when you laugh”. Whatever it is, by being observant (or just a great compliment giver) you’ll be able to pick it out and deliver a line that has her grinning for the rest of the week.
Your comment will stand out because it’s so different than the typical flattery she’s used to hearing.
From the Heart
Now, I’m not telling you to get all lovey-dovey with a chick you just met, and scare her off with your deepest darkest secrets. But the nicest thing you can say is usually the one that’s the most sincere. Something that comes from the heart.
Tell her how special she is or how much she means to you. Whether it’s mom or a serious girlfriend, just a genuine “I love you” can go a long way. For more tips on building strong relationships, check out this excellent course. Or, if you’ve gotten yourself in some trouble, use this course to help fix your rocky relationship.
Every woman wants to be appreciated, whether it’s mom, the wife, or a waitress serving you lunch. And it’s not enough to think it, you have to actually acknowledge and voice your appreciation. She has to feel it.
Tell her how much you appreciate her. Express how lucky you are to have her in your life. This works out in your favor, too. Pour on the compliments whenever she cooks or gives you a massage, and she’ll be much more likely to do them again sometime in the near future.
Now you know the do’s of saying something nice. Let’s look at a couple dont’s. These may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how often people can forget them.
Timing is Everything
There’s a time and a place for everything. If you’re at a funeral, it may not be the best time to start telling girls how gorgeous they are. You might think it will cheer them up, but really it’s just awkward and out of place.
At work, try to keep things professional and work related – “Wow, you’re really good at that”, or “This is really excellent work”. If you work in a more casual setting and are good friends with the woman you’re talking to, maybe you can get away with a little more. But there’s just a ton of room for misinterpretation.
Observing body language is a great way to make sure your comments are welcome and well-received. You can learn more about it with this course. But if you still manage to say something stupid, this blog post will hopefully help you smooth things over.
Someone you’re already dating may be flattered by your comment about their butt. The waitress you’re trying to flirt with, probably not so much. As with all socialization, your familiarity with each other means a lot.
Avoid comments about any part of a woman’s body below her neck, unless you’re in a relationship. Sure, commenting on her “pretty feet” may not be disrespectful. But it is, well, a bit weird.
Now that you know how to deliver the perfect compliment, what’s your next step? That’s right. Say something!
Don’t be shy. If you follow the steps we outlined, you’re comments will be well-received. You might even make someone’s day. For more tips on approaching and talking to women, this course is for you.