Shyness Quotes

shyness quotesShy people are often overwhelmed by crowds, and unwilling to subject themselves to the stress of going to parties or social events that are packed with people, loud music and too much noise. They prefer to be with one or two good friends in a quiet cafe, spending time alone reading or participating in hobbies or just escaping to the wilderness in order to have a good time. This may seem lonely to extroverts, but it is deeply pleasurable to those who are shy and introverted. In fact, experiences like these are enlightening and can help expand their minds.

Shy people experience pleasure in ways that are different than extroverted, outspoken people. They do not enjoy shocking others with boisterous behaviors, but rather with brilliant, seldom spoken deep thoughts or insights. Shy people are simply introverted, and there is nothing wrong with being that way.

Human Development

In an effort to explain the somewhat rare trait of introversion to those who do not understand, shy people have come forward with the written word. One of the most important messages that shy introverts would like to project to the public is that they are different, but fine the way they are. Different can be good. After all, the world would be very boring if everyone were the same.

There is no need to try to change shy people’s personalities or push them to do something they do not wish to do, e.g. going to parties, go on blind dates, etc. Being around too many people, especially unfamiliar people, or being in situations that they are uncomfortable is exhausting, not fun. No amount of exposure will change the fun factor. It is what it is, and accepting that fact would be beneficial to those involved in situations such as these. Rather than try to push shy people to the edge of their comfort zone, join them where they are at ease. Atmosphere is everything.

The following quotes are given in an effort to enlighten others about shyness and help unite introverts with a common theme of understanding and acceptance:

Audrey Hepburn

Introverted people who are shy find social interaction exhausting. They need peace and quiet to recharge their batteries and feel normal again. Audrey Hepburn explains it simply, “I have to be alone very often. I’d be perfectly happy if I spent Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.”

Susan Cain

There is no need to critique the personalities of shy people, or to view them as socially flawed. Susan Cain says it best in this series of meaningful, helpful quotes:

“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured…Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.” Susan Cain

“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.” Susan Cain

“Now that you’re an adult, you might still feel a pang of guilt when you decline a dinner invitation in favor of a good book. Or maybe you like to eat alone in restaurants and could do without the pitying looks from fellow diners. Or you’re told that you’re “in your head too much”, a phrase that’s often deployed against the quiet and cerebral. Or maybe there’s another word for such people: thinkers.” Susan Cain

“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.” Susan Cain

C.G. Jung

C.G. Jung has sage advice for shy people who enjoy being alone. The smartest people are those who know their thoughts, feelings and personalities well. In order to get to know the self, absolute silence, peace and calm are needed. “Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes” C.G. Jung

Criss Jami

Shy introverts are often very artistic. Remaining in isolation is comforting, and can be helpful when trying to focus on a project. Social awkwardness and a desire to be alone may be a temporary inconvenience, but it can be turned around into a positive situation and used for posterity. “When you’re socially awkward, you’re isolated more than usual, and when you’re isolated more than usual, your creativity is less compromised by what has already been said and done. All your hope in life starts to depend on your craft, so you try to perfect it. One reason I stay isolated more than the average person is to keep my creativity as fierce as possible. Being the odd one out may have its temporary disadvantages, but more importantly, it has its permanent advantages.” Criss Jami

“Telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to Hell.” Criss Jami

Jarod Kintz

Shy people understand the dating world as a sort of hell on earth. Getting to know others without having a romantic interest in them is difficult enough. When meeting a stranger that makes palms wet and the heart beat quicken, the desire to get to know the new love interest is overwhelmed by a lack of couth, a plan of action or plain old mojo. Shy guy Jarod Kintz recites his normal dating experience, “When I’m introduced to a woman for the first time, I always say the same thing. I say, “Hi, I’m Jarod, and I think you’ll love my kids. You’d better, because you’re going to give birth to them.” This usually works, because after I say this I can immediately go back to being an introvert, as I’m left standing there all alone.”

Laurie Helgoe

Shyness comes naturally to people. It may be a result of a negative experience, but most often shy people were just born that way. What many do not understand is that the ability to find pleasure in being alone is rare and extremely useful. It is a strengthening factor in one’s personality, not a hindrance. Laurie Helgoe explains it well, “Isn’t it refreshing to know that what comes perfectly natural for you is your greatest strength? Your power is in your nature. You may not think it’s a big deal that you can spend hours immersed in something that interests you—alone—but the extrovert next door has no idea how you do it.” Laurie Helgoe

Because shy people usually have the common sense to read, write or reflect upon themselves while given space, peace and quiet, it is possible to develop monumental ideas, invent new devices, create stunning and priceless works of art or just learn more about how to influence the masses. “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” Mahatma Gandhi

Shy people enjoy learning about the minds of others. When a person can understand themselves and have empathy to understand others, it can be life changing. Revel in the silence, reach into the minds of others and shake the world.