If you feel like your relationship isn’t quite following the normal path of other relationships, you may want to consult our relationship timeline. Whether you are currently deep into a relationship, or are just beginning one and want to know what might be in store down the line, we can show you what you might expect, or give you an idea if you’re moving too slowly or too quickly. And remember, these guidelines are general, and may be what works for a lot of people, but it’s not what works for everyone. If things in your relationship are moving a bit slow or fast for you, what matters most is that you’re happy and enjoying your relationship.
Below is a general relationship timeline, from first date to several years out. This timeline, along with this course on creating a mind-blowing relationship, might help in not only finding the right person for you, but also help to figure out what should happen, and when.
This is where the “Honeymoon Phase” is found, where the couple may be lovey-dovey and can’t seem to keep their hands off of each other. This is also the time frame that most relationships end in, as well, so it can be quite a volatile time for new lovebirds.
- First Date
This is when you really have to shine, showing not only part of your real self, but also putting on a performance to try to woo the other person. While it may not be the best representation of the people involved, it does give the other a good idea of what to expect.
- Six Weeks
If you make it this far, this is around the time people start feeling comfortable with each other. Some of the awkwardness is wearing off and your real self is becoming more obvious to the other person. You may also start to meet your partner’s friends and get a feel for what their life is all about.
- First Three Months
The “Honeymoon Phase” we talked about earlier. If you get past the first couple of dates, this is when things get fun. This part may last a few weeks, or as long as a few months. Basically, there’s a lot of physical “interaction”, with euphoric feelings happening in both parties, and chances are you’re not really noticing the flaws in the other person quite yet. This is also the time you may start referring to yourself as a couple, using words such as “us”, and “we”.
- Six Months
Here, the sheen has probably worn off a bit, and there’s probably something that’s beginning to annoy you about the other person. They may not be trying as hard as before to keep their baggage and hangups hidden. For a relationship to last past this point, there needs to be more than a physical attraction, such as mutual respect, a sense of humor, etc. The words “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” may also be bandied about around this time.
- Six to Nine Months
If you’re able to make it this long in a relationship, congratulations. This is when couples start discussing a life together, in one way or another. Maybe they will take a vacation together, spend an upcoming holiday together, or even maybe meet each other’s family at some point. Around this point in time, you may start hearing the “L” word, with someone breaking the ice, and finally saying “I love you.”
After the First Year
If you’ve made it a year in your relationship, that’s a great accomplishment that a lot don’t make. Once you’ve crossed the year mark, there may be some bumpy road ahead, but also a deepening of the relationship.
- One Year to 18 Months
This is when a couple begins to settle down. There’s no more honeymoon, and there’s been bed-head, sickness, no makeup and other not very sexy things going on. If you find you’ve started fighting a bit, that’s perfectly normal. Just make sure it doesn’t get out of hand, and if it does, this course on how to stop fighting with your partner may be necessary. If you’re still happy this far into a relationship, there should be discussions of marriage at some point, assuming you’re not too young. If you’re still in your early 20s or younger, the marriage discussion should probably wait a few more years. If you’re not the marrying type, that should also be discussed, as well as other life goals, such as where to live, having children, etc.
Two Years and Beyond
- Two Years
This might be the make or break part of a relationship for some people. If marriage is the next step in your relationship, this is around the time a proposal should be made. It should be something that both partners want to do, rather than just then next step that should be taken. Again, this is different for everyone, especially if you’re a bit on the young side, but what it boils down to is, “Does this feel right?” And if so, then go for it.
Hopefully, wherever you’re at in your relationship at this point in time, you’re happy. Whether there was marriage or children or whatever, all that matters is the both of you are happy. If at this point in time, or at some point prior, you noticed the spark beginning to wane a bit, this course on improving your relationship and your sex life might just help put some excitement back in the bedroom.
So, how does your love life stack up to this timeline? As we said before, no two relationships are the same, so you may not partake in all of these milestones, let alone at the same time as other people. However you may gauge your relationship, if you’ve spent at least a year with them, then there’s something special happening. If you feel like you’ve met your soul mate, but still need some advice, this course on the secrets of a true love relationship may be what you need.