When it comes to success in online dating, every word counts. The text, photos, and interests you use in your profile can be the difference between receiving hundreds of messages per week and barely getting noticed.
Many of the online dating profile examples on the Internet aren’t quite as successful as you might think. Descriptions and photos that you think might work can actually fall flat when used in real life and fail to attract the attention you want.
In this blog post, we’ll bust the myths of what makes a great dating profile. We’ll also help you improve your description, images, and interests so that you get more dates and messages from your favorite online dating website.
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The Basics of an Online Dating Profile
Most online dating profiles are made up of three elements: your description, your photos, and your personal characteristics. While you can’t control your physical characteristics, you can control your personal description and photos.
Did you know that the photos you use on your online dating profile have a huge effect on your response rate? Even attractive, interesting people can struggle on online dating websites if their photos aren’t clear, large, and eye-catching.
Likewise, your personal description can have a huge impact on the type of people that message you and the amount of attention you get. The more interesting your description is, the more likely you are to find someone that’s a good match.
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Online Dating Profile Images
Your profile photo is the first thing most people will notice when they’re browsing a dating website, so it’s important that you make it count. Choose a photo that’s clear and easy to see – blurry, pixelated webcam photos are no good for online dating.
Make sure your face is clearly visible in your profile picture. People that smile tend to get more messages on most online dating sites, so choose a picture which makes you look positive and interesting, not one that makes you look sad and broody.
The best online dating photos tend to show off your interests and lifestyle. Do you love to play piano? Include a photo of you sitting on a piano stool. Are you a keen photographer? Use a picture with your camera hanging around your shoulders.
The more your picture says about you, the more likely you are to get messages. A good image should give people multiple things to start a conversation about, from your clothing and style to your hobbies and interests.
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Remember that most people will see your picture before they click through to your profile, so the type of image you project in your picture needs to attract the type of people you want to meet. No matter how interesting your profile is, few people will read it unless your picture entices them to click and learn more about you.
Say ‘No’ to MySpace Images
Remember the high angle ‘MySpace-style’ images that dominated social networking in 2006? According to online dating site OkCupid, these images aren’t as ineffective at attracting people as you might expect.
Still, it’s best to avoid images that are overly suggestive, artistic, or cheesy. Stick to images that show off your personality and your interests to attract higher quality messages from people you’d actually like to meet.
The interests and hobbies you list on your profile will have a huge effect on the type of people that message you and the type of messages you receive. The best interests to list on your profile tend to be sociable ones like sports, games, and activities.
Think about it – it’s hard for someone to send a message when you describe yourself as an introverted, artistic bookworm. List hobbies that you think other people could connect with, especially the type of person you’d like to meet up with and date.
Good hobbies to list include your artistic interests, your favorite musicians, outdoor activities and sports that you love to play, lifestyle interests, places you love to travel to, and events you’ve been a part of.
Better yet, try to match the interests listed on your profile to your photos. Showing off your personality and interests on your profile makes it easier for people to think of ways to message you and get your attention.
Remember to stay upbeat and positive, not just in your photos but in your interests and hobbies. People love to meet fun, happy, and interesting people – make sure you project the best possible image of you in your profile.
Online Dating Profile Characteristics
Lying about your height, your weight, or your age on your profile might help you get more interest in the short term, but it can bounce back if you end up going on a date with someone who has the wrong impression of you from your profile.
Be honest about your age and your body, and focus on projecting the best image in your photos and description. Don’t worry about what you can’t control – focus your efforts on connecting with people that like you for who you are.
Online Dating Profile Descriptions
Your dating profile is like a personal résumé – it should tell people enough that they feel interested in messaging you, but not so much that you give them nothing to talk about. Aim for two to three paragraphs about yourself and your interests.
Try to avoid using clichés in your profile. Instead, focus on listing your interests and experiences that could act as conversation starters. Leave your life history off your profile – that’s something to discuss on a date, not before you receive a message.
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Online Dating Profile ‘Avoidances’
Now that you know what to include in your online dating profile, you’re probably wondering what not to include. Generally speaking, you should avoid mentioning anything negative on your profile, whether it’s politics or personal annoyances.
Remember, no one wants to meet someone that’s angry or cynical. Stick to things you like and build your profile around your positive side, not anything cynical or overly grumpy.
Also, try to keep things short, sweet, and simple. Not many people have the time to read an essay about your personal interests, regardless of how interesting you think it is. Try to keep your entire profile description under five paragraphs, at most.
Finally, show off your best side. Don’t be afraid to talk about yourself – after all, this is your dating profile – but don’t be too selfish or egotistic. Focus on showcasing the elements of your personality that you think will attract people you’re interested in.
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Remember, online dating is about meeting great people and having fun. Use these tips and tactics to create a great profile, but don’t forget that dating is ultimately about being yourself!