ISTP Relationships: Getting to Know the Craftsman

ISTP RelationshipsWhen asked what you look for in a significant other or friend, your typical response would probably be some long or short list of generally positive characteristics, and perhaps a few physical attributes as well. However, when comparing the importance of physical appearance against personality, personality will win out every time. According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, there are sixteen different personality types. The sections below focus on one particular type, referred to as “ISTP”, which describes individuals who are introverted, rely on senses, put emphasis on thinking, and are highly perceptive. Read on to learn more about the personality and relationships of ISTP types.

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Personality of the ISTP Type

The personality of ISTP types revolves around a calm and laid-back disposition. However, despite this, ISTPs usually have an underlying energetic component that allows them to become overly excited about ideas and use their high levels of creativity to invent unique solutions to everyday dilemmas. On the exterior, they remain very rational, assessing people and situations from a logical perspective and often veering away from emotional reaction. Their personality can seem very contrasting at times, but, upon getting to know the ISTP, the opposing traits will begin to make more sense.

ISTPs remain relatively private in their thoughts and opinions, greatly preferring friends and partners that do not seek out philosophical discussions. The sense of humor of an ISTP is unmatched and they frequently put it to work to dilute tense or awkward situations. Despite their reserved tendencies, ISTPs do not typically seek out or care much about maintaining a substantial amount of personal space when it comes to discussing projects that they are currently working on and activities that demand their attention.

What are the Advantages of Dating an ISTP Type?

Pursuing a romantic connection with an ISTP type can bring about long lasting happiness and joy due to the vide variety of attributes that this type will bring into the relationship. A few of these positive traits include:

  • Optimism and energy. The upbeat nature of the ISTP is sure to lift even the worst of moods and add a touch of light to every situation. Always on the go and looking for something to get excited about, the ISTP is able to make every experience one to remember.
  • Calm and laid-back. A key attribute of the ISTP is the ability to keep a clear head even in crisis situations. The ISTP remains calm at all times, even when those around the individual are panicking. Also, because of this rationality, the ISTP is often slow to anger.
  • Creativity and practicality. The ISTP is always coming up with new and improved methods of finding solutions to problems, often approaching the situation in a way that no one else has. They enjoy tinkering with mechanics and examining the inner workings of machines.
  • Able to prioritize. ISTP types can easily assess the most important matters in their lives and often put them first, pushing aside insignificant issues to make room. If a relationship becomes vastly important to the ISTP, it’s likely they will place their significant other at the top of the list.

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What are the Disadvantages of Dating an ISTP Type?

Relationships can turn messy quite easily, especially if your significant other exhibits certain traits that are likely to drive a wedge between the two of you. A few characteristics that ISTP types possess that may be detrimental to the relationship include:

  • Stubbornness. ISTP types have a tendency to stick to their guns when it comes to defending their morals and, because of this, may become pigheaded in arguments. They find it difficult to accept criticism or agree with perspectives that do not match up with their own.
  • Risk-taking. While the boldness and confidence that typically goes along with risk taking may seem attractive, the negative side of this trait is that it often causes ISTP types to pick arguments simply for the enjoyment of determining how the other will react.
  • Insensitivity. Following the ideals of logic, the ISTP often forgets that their calculating comments may come off as more inconsiderate than intended. They tend to be taken aback by the emotional reactions others offer in response to situations that the ISTP would react to in a levelheaded manner.
  • Reservation in allowing others in. ISTP types prefer to keep even those closest to them at a distance, preferring the comfort of solitude and seek it out quite often. It is usually difficult to truly get to know an ISTP type and may cause potential problems throughout the relationship.

Becoming Friends With an ISTP

Building friendships often comes naturally to the ISTP, since their engagement in a wide variety of hobbies allows them access to a large pool of potential companions. They find it quite easy to come up with a list of activities to engage in with new friends and, because of this, typically become the planner in groups. Participating in physical activities, such as sports, with an ISTP is the easiest way to gain their friendship since competing with others is a favorite activity of theirs.

However, there are considerable drawbacks to befriending an ISTP type. ISTPs operate along the principals of all that they encounter being ephemeral, which may cause them to not take the friendship seriously. They tend to form rollercoaster friendships in which the relationship may be vastly fulfilling one day and devastatingly bad the next. Along with this, ISTP types often shy away from commitment, seeing such a step as equal to entrapment. Not wanting to be tied down, they often jump from friend to friend in constant search of something new and exciting.

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Having an ISTP Parent

Children of ISTP parents are often given more freedom than other children due to the very passive and permissive ISTP parenting approach. The laid-back attitude that surrounds this type manifests itself into raising children and often permits them from imposing rules and regulations for how the child is expected to behave. However, this relaxed approach sometimes functions as beneficial for the child, such as when ISTP parents encourage their children to pursue their dreams and divulge in other creative pursuits. They push their children to experience new things and explore the world around them. ISTPs tend to be especially encouraging when their children engage in the passions that the parent his or herself engages in, particularly in the field of sports or other physically active hobbies.

Unfortunately, as highly logical beings, ISTP types often have difficulty identifying with the overly emotional state that children sometimes possess and may find themselves exasperated by incessant crying about seemingly meaningless dilemmas. Children are very irrational and this inability to understand how to resolve the issue may be extremely detrimental to the child. In order to develop a full understanding of the child, ISTP parents are advised to attempt to view the situation through the child’s eyes and provide immediate comfort even if the reaction the child is exhibiting still seems irrational.

Relationships, friendships, and other bonds with ISTP types can be both fulfilling and complicated. If you fall into the category of ISTP and you’re interested in reading more about other types that your friends, significant other, or relatives may fall into, check out this blog post on ISFJ relationships. Once you’ve determined which type they belong to, check out this great course on living with differing personality styles!