How To Approach a Guy: Being Confident, Cool, and Collected

how to approach a guyApproaching strangers is never an easy thing to do.  It’s even harder to do when you are trying to approach a good-looking guy who just happens to be standing in the middle of a crowd.  Insecurities and the fear of rejection may creep in and make taking the first step even harder than it should be.  The problem may be that you are looking at the situation all wrong.  Stop doubting yourself and take a second to think about what a great catch YOU are, instead of thinking about what a great catch they may be.  If you ask most men, they will tell you that there is nothing sexier than a confident woman.  Be that confident woman, strut your stuff on over to that good-looking guy and make him take notice of you.  Enroll in our course Woman Men Want to learn more about the types of things that men find attractive and want in their future partner.  Now, here are some tips that will help you take control of a situation and approach the types of men you want to meet.

Know What You Want

Just because a guy looks good, doesn’t mean he’s always a good guy.  We’ve all met those guys who look and sound great but once we spent a little time with them we realized it was all an illusion.  There were probably small red flags that went off during the initial meeting that you didn’t take the time, or didn’t want to pay attention to.  It’s time to stop ignoring those flags and wasting time on men that you know aren’t right for you.  The time that you spent wasting on Mr. Wrong, could have been the time that you had been spending with Mr. Right.  All of that time wasn’t necessarily wasted though, after meeting a few of those guys I bet you have a pretty good idea of the types of things that you want in a partner, and those that you absolutely don’t. You already know the physical traits that you are attracted to, so it’s time to think about the types of qualities you want in a man.  If you’re a focused, hard working and career oriented person; odds are that you don’t want someone who is in between jobs and still living with their parents.  You want someone with the same goals and aspirations that you have.  Join others who want to meet single, professional men by enrolling in this course on meeting the right man and fast track your path to Mr. Right.

Know Your Worth

how to approach a guyTime to change your way of thinking.  You are the prize; the ultimate catch and any man would be lucky to have you.  Know how valuable you are and make men chase you.  Changing your attitude and knowing your self worth will make not only men, but people ,take notice and before you know it men will be lining up to get to know you.  Stop being the self-conscious person who has to take the back seat on decision making and who doesn’t know how to speak for themselves.  How can you grow as a person and in a relationship if you don’t know how to tell someone your likes and dislikes.  Men don’t like to guess, so when they ask you what you feel like eating for dinner, tell him don’t answer the question with ‘I don’t know, what do you want?’.  Better yet, plan a date and let him know what you’ll both be doing instead.  If being confident is something that you think you could work on, enroll in our Confidence Building course.  You will learn some tips and tricks to use to conquer negative thinking and control your body language.

Body Language, Speaks Louder Than Words

Nothing speaks louder than body language.  You can tell how a person is feeling just by looking at them.  If you’re slouching, have a pout on your face, and fail to look people in the eye they may think that you don’t want to talk to them or that you’re in a bad mood and won’t take the time to approach you.  Even if this is not how you are feeling, this is how people may interpret it.  Don’t risk missing out on meeting great people because you’re sending the wrong signals with your body language.  Stand up tall, smile, look people in the eye and you’ll instantly be more approachable.  If you do happen to meet someone that you’re interested in, let him or her know.  A slight touch on the knee, an open stance, and a smile will let them know that you are interested and help to keep the conversation flowing.  To join others who want to learn how to use body language to benefit their relationships, check out The Secret Language of Love.

Be Cool

how to approach a guySamuel L. Jackson said it in Pulp Fiction… Be Cool.  Don’t change who you are, or how you are for anyone.  Be yourself when you approach new people and they will want to get to know you more.  Worried about those lull’s that may happen in a conversation?  Stop worrying, remind yourself that they won’t last forever and if they do then maybe you have nothing in common.  Try your best to let conversation flow freely and during those moments where you would usually feel awkward because you have nothing else to say take a second to recompose yourself and ask them a question about themselves.  Or, even better tell them something that you’ve accomplished.  You can even try and tell a silly joke, nothing says having a good time, like laughter.

When trying to gather the courage to approach someone, remember that a step forward is better than no step at all.  If you don’t take the time to try and meet people, how do you know that you haven’t accidentally missed out on Mr. Right because you were to scared, or to nervous to take initiative.  Ask yourself, what’s the worst that could happen?