eye contact attraction tipsHollywood does a fantastic job when they demonstrate the magic of two people locking eyes across the room. The background noise fades, time slows down and the only focus is the two people connecting with intensity. If you want to create this sort of relationship in your life, this course is going to be a great help. What normally happens though, is the act of meeting someone’s gaze happens all the time. When we notice, we all feel a little giddy inside, but unfortunately many of us fail to recognize when this happens, and don’t know how to use eye contact with success.

Making eye contact is one of the first ways you can reveal you’re attracted to another person. Sure, this isn’t a cheesy pick up line, but often it’s the tried and true methods that work the best. A few intimate glances, followed by an introduction is normally how people connect. This is because the attraction wiring in our brain hasn’t changed, even though there are newer methods of meeting people, like internet dating, singles mixer nights, and drunken antics throughout happy hour. Making eye contact is a tried and tested method of attraction, and is important to master if you want to have success in the dating world.

But why does eye contact work? If you look at it from the woman’s perspective, they can actually get an insight into your character based on the way you look at them. it also demonstrates how confident you are, a trait that tops the list of what women find attractive. You can practice faking confidence in your words and actions, but it is much harder to change your non-verbal cues and body language. Your eyes are a key component of this. Because your body language usually reflects your feelings without you knowing it, people can read your “tells” and get an idea of what you’re actually thinking – without you having said anything! In dating, women can quickly determine if you’re genuinely confident or simply faking it, based on the way your body is communicating. Compared to all the different non-verbal cues, making strong eye contact is the best way to assert a calm and strong confidence about yourself. Getting it wrong can show you’re insecure, and before you even say anything you’ve already missed your chance.

Women find men who can hold direct eye contact attractive because it’s a rare trait. Most guys simply cave into the tension it builds, and look away. It’s hard to maintain eye contact if you lack the confidence to back it up, which is what makes it so great as an honest signal of your personality. Practice holding her gaze and relaxing while you do it, as this demonstrates you’re both comfortable with the tension, and have more than enough confidence to handle her. Sometimes just displaying this confidence is enough to get women to approach you and begin to open up!

In actuality, most women are not going to approach you, or even intensely lock eyes with you. What they will do, is drop subtle hints that show their interest. The good news is you can learn these for yourself, and learn how to identify them as they are being shown far more than most guys even know. In general, women are much more socially attuned than guys, and can read emotional cues and nonverbal signals with ease. Unfortunately this means their own signals are very, very subtle, which makes it hard for guys to even notice. Yes women, we guys really are that oblivious! But what’s good news is that once you start looking for the clues women are giving you with their eye contact, you’ll start noticing a heck of a lot more women that are interested in you.

This is how it works. Keep an eye out for any woman who meet’s your eyes with just a glance (only a second or two), before she disengages. Notice she disengages, not the guy. This is so that she can release the tension between the two of you, because after all – you’re both strangers. What comes next is the most critical part, within the next 45-60 seconds, she’s going to look at you again. This happens once she feels secure there is no lingering tension, Normally you’ll feel this at the same time, and you’ll catch her eyes. From here it’s up to you to judge how she is feeling, and if she wants the interaction between you two to continue. Sometimes she cannot, because she’s with her kids, her partner, doesn’t have time, or is simply too nervous. Your job is to determine what she’s feeling and take action. The most obvious green light is if she gives you a continued look of curiosity, so get off your chair and go over there! Most women aren’t going to do much more than this, so learn to recognize it. If you fail to pick up on the clues, this will be seen as both a rejection, as well as her learning you’re not confident enough for her. This is a great filter, because most women want a man confident in social situations, as well as sensitive in reading their emotions.

When you’re looking to make eye contact to attract people, follow these tips and you’ll rapidly increase your success in meeting women:

With non-verbal communication you don’t need to worry about “what to say.” Your body is already communicating, and this is far more important that what you’re actually saying. Every non-verbal action you do, gives what you’re saying context, and is very easily interpreted by the women you are talking to. This course is going to help you immensely in learning the secrets of controlling what you’re saying with your body language.

Always be relaxed. If you don’t feel relaxed, you’re not going to be happy, so you’ll smile less and look somewhat unfriendly. Coupled with holding someone’s gaze, and you’re now communicating that you’re a serial killer. The best way to avoid all of this is to smile. Work on what smile works best for you, some people like a big, beaming grin, while others have success with little half smiles that have an air of mystery. Eye contact alone is very powerful, but you need it to reflect what the rest of your body is saying. If you don’t have these aligned, you’re going to come off as odd, or even creepy.

Keep your eye contact strong and steady. You should always try to be the last person to break eye contact. If you absolutely must, never move your gaze down. This is a submissive gesture, indicating awkwardness and shyness and whilst cute in the movies, it’s very unattractive in real life. It’s totally natural for you to feel nervous, especially when your heart is on the line, but you need to learn to control your feelings. This course is an excellent reference for guys who are inherently a little shy, so you can master your confidence and begin having more success with women.

Never wear sunglasses when you’re trying to attract people. You can’t interact with a person if they cannot see your eyes, which is the main reason many of the most attractive women always wear dark glasses when they are out. It helps to form a barrier and stops guys approaching them. If you want to form connections, lose the shades!

Lose all trace of doubt. If you think that cute girl in the corner just gave you a look, don’t let your self-doubt rule. Even if you’re not sure, don’t let yourself be held back and show who is really calling the shots. If you take action, you’ll gain even more confidence, experience and even if you were wrong, there’s nothing wrong with going to say hello.

When you’re meeting someone’s gaze it can often be difficult to interpret. As follows are some of the subtle hints you can learn to recognize so that you can also master the art of dating, or you can also take this course and learn everything you need to know about dating the girl of your dreams.

If someone’s eyes are glittering, or appear shiny, it’s because they like you. When people get emotional feelings (like desire) their eyes will water a little, and as a result reflect more light. If you see someone whose eyes are shining in your presence, that’s a good indicator of attraction.

As you learn more about body language you’ll discover short actions and gestures can reveal much information. People’s eyebrows will raise ever so slightly, and just for a moment when they see something they like. Look out for any reactions like this when you make eye contact.

A more commonly known one is a prolonged gaze, as people will always look towards the people they like. Someone who likes you is going to hold eye contact for longer than normal. This also works if your with in a larger group, the people who like you will be giving you the lion’s share of eye contact, while looking less at the others in the group.

When someone likes you, they’ll watch you closely after they’ve said or done something funny, as they want to see you laughing, and are trying to make you happy.

Within someone’s eyes you may notice their pupils getting wider. This is a trait that happens when people look at something they like, and if it’s happening in your presence it means they like you.

The eyes hold the secret to attraction. If you are paying attention to the people around you and learn how to interpret the signals, you will soon be able to approach the women who are giving you the “green light”. This will shoot your success with women through the roof, as they are already telling you to come and meet them, with their eyes. All you need to do is be receptive of it, and take action. Once you’ve got their interest, check out this recent post for some great first date ideas to fit any level of adventure and budget.

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