Personality plays a key role in all relationships, whether it be parenting, friendship, or romantic relationships. Whether or not the two individuals in the relationships get along well is based almost entirely on the ways in which the two personalities interact and balance each other. The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator identifies sixteen different personality types; in the sections below, we will discuss the personality, advantages, and disadvantages of engaging in a relationship with one particular type, the ESFP.
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If the entire ESFP personality type had to be simplified down to one single all-encompassing phrase, it would, without a doubt, be “life of the party”. ESFP types are highly sociable and find life most satisfying when they are the center of attention and surrounded by others who admire and appreciate their free spirit. New and exciting stimulation is constantly sought after by these individuals who find themselves quite unsatisfied with a life lacking in novelty. Communication is also valued by ESFP types who enjoy discussing a wide variety of topics, as well as conversing in areas unknown to the ESFP. Because of this high skill in areas of communication, ESFP types are also often well versed in body language and can often determine an acquaintance’s emotional state simply by glancing at them. In addition to this, these types are also equipped with the knowledge of how to provide wonderful emotional support and advice to those in distress.
However, the downfall of the ESFP comes with the constant need for spontaneity and adventure, which has the potential to develop into forgetfulness when the ESTP jumps from project to project. They often find themselves too wrapped up in an interest that they disregard the world around them until the next interest appears. Quick satisfaction is key for the ESFP and typically leads this type to forget obligations and disregard duties. Luck is also a focal point for the ESFP, who frowns upon using analytical and logic-based means to solve a problem or make a decision.
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Advantages of Dating an ESFP Type
Seeking out a significant other who falls into the ESFP category has many perks due to personality traits possessed by this type that help to ensure the survival of a long, healthy relationship, such as:
- Boldness. The life of the ESFP is experienced outside their comfort zone, often involving potentially dangerous, yet exhilarating activities and occurrences. The motto of these types is “try everything once”. This works to the advantage of a relationship because it causes these types to be open-minded and willing to try and experience new things with their significant other.
- Originality. Fitting in with the crowd is not at all important to the ESFP. These types prefer to stand out and appear to be remarkable instead of boring. They often act in unpredictable and exciting ways that run contrary to the mainstream expectations. In a relationship, this assists the ESFP in helping their partner learn to swim against the current as well.
- Highly Sociable. The personality of ESFP types revolves around people skills and interactions. They live for meeting new people and making new friends with whom they can share their memories and make new ones. In a relationship, this almost guarantees that family members and other important people in the significant other’s life will simply adore the ESFP.
- Admiration of Aesthetics and Beauty. Artistic and natural beauty is fascinating to the ESFP, who often finds his or herself drawn to breath-taking works of art. However, ESFPs often use this skill to entertain others and appreciate the beauty of the human body. As a significant other, the ESFP is sure to shower their love in compliments and appreciate their inner and outer beauty.
- Practicality. The ESFP is very focused on the here and now of life, often avoiding discussions that revolve around what was here before mankind and the wonder of what lies beyond the grave. Instead, ESFPs spend their time discussing and thinking about real world issues that affect everyday life.
- Observant. As noted in the personality section, ESFP types are able to sense almost intuitively when someone close to them is experiencing emotional distress. They act immediately to comfort and console these people, dropping everything else to ensure their return to stability.
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Disadvantages of Dating an ESFP Type
Although there are many benefits that come with entering into a relationship with an ESFP type, there are also a few drawbacks, due to personality traits like:
- Difficulties Focusing. ESFPs often jump from interest to interest without warning, which causes them to find difficulty in focusing on one particular interest and sticking with it.
- Sensitivity. The ESFP is easily offended and highly likely to react to situations in an emotional manner, making it clear to everyone present that they are upset.
- Poor Planning Skills. Because of their focus on right now, ESFPs are not great at making and sticking to concrete plans regarding the future.
- Constant Excitement Seeking. The ESFP’s need for continual stimulation often puts stress on a romantic relationship, particularly once the two lovers begin to habituate to each other.
- Difficulties in the Academic Environment. Since most of the ESFP’s life revolves around the prospect of socializing, the academic aspects of formal schooling is often seen as unimportant to these types.
- Avoidance of Conflict. Even the slightest disagreement is likely to set an ESFP on edge, so they often shy away from conflict at all costs.
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